Only this time we will talk about good words.
Words of comfort, consolation, happy, joyful -words full of love, kindness and encouragement.
Words when we write, speak or hear them they cause warm feelings deep inside… it’s interesting how we can actually feel them.
However, many times, these words are within the midst of other words that express doubt or fear and we hear them fleetingly fly by, longing to hear more.
We need these words.
But, where will I find them? What are my sources to hear the words I need?
1/ One source, from people around me.
If one takes a motivational course, there is always an emphasis on being around those who encourage, but to avoid being around negative people. The attitudes of those around me affect me. My emotions and determination are affected by what people say to me. I don’t believe I am to look for those words from people. I am always surprised and thankful when I hear encouraging words from others.
However, those words can disappear.
- Some questions I ask myself.
Who is part of my “inner circle?”
Spouse, family, close friends, best friend (male or female), people at work, my “coffee chat friends”, friends on social media, friends at church. . . who do I enjoy exchanging ideas with? What is their attitude towards life and others? Do I have a choice of who I am with? Have I even thought about this?
Can I avoid being with negative people?
1 Corinthians 5:9–10
“9 I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— 10 not at all meaning all the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world.”
Looks to me like Paul had a pretty good idea of normal life around him.
2/ A second source, from God’s Word.
“The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want.” Psa 23
God’s Word is filled with motivation, instruction, promises and help!
This is where I go to find my answers – and the firmness of God’s promises. I can depend upon God’s Word – always.
Here is where I learn to choose my priorities.
As a light in the midst of darkness, joy in the midst of evil and frustration, we choose our priorities, whom we will believe and desire to be like.
Something interesting to me – Paul’s instructions on how to avoid negative influences are based upon what we concentrate on: what is the central point of our lives.
Wicked people surrounded Jesus from many backgrounds.
Those who wanted to destroy him and those who desired the peace, joy and love emanating from Him.
I want those qualities to emanate from me also.
An interesting concept I found: two scriptures that warn against different things, but the solutions for solving the problems are almost the same. Check them out.
A) What should my attitude be towards money which creates greed, etc.?
1 Timothy 6:10–11
10” For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils.
It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs. 11But as for you, O man (or woman) of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.”
NOTE: It is the LOVE of the money Paul is writing about. And that love for money is a subtle and powerful emotion… to love money more than love people.
This does not mean we ignore the necessity of money in our lives. But Paul tells us to fill our minds and lives with good things – righteousness, godliness, faithfulness, love, endurance, and gentleness. If these are our priorities, as we work with money we will not have time for the love of money or other negative influences to take over our lives. Remember, gratitude for things money makes possible is not loving the money.
- What should my attitude be about my own impulsiveness and wants? Do I get angry when things don’t go my way?
In 2 Timothy 2:22, Paul writes:.
“But keep away from youthful passions, and pursue righteousness, faithfulness, love, and peace, in company with others who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” (NET)
Totally different subject, but pretty much the same solution.
Pursue certain qualities. Go after them with a deep desire and passion. When we do this, we will be amazed at the difference in our life priorities, our attitudes, and our words.
- C) What should be my attitude about speaking in love to others?
Amplified Bible (AMP). 1
1 5“But speaking the truth in love
[in all things—both our speech and our lives expressing His truth],
let us grow up in all things into Him [following His example] who is the Head—Christ.”
For me, it is a challenge and a joy to speak the truth with loving words.
The concepts above are some of the ways I use to check my attitudes and my words. This is a constant challenge in my life.
How about you? Do you have the same challenges in your life?
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